Saturday, February 1, 2014

Week 4


The one thing that surprised me the most was that my husband evaluated me different to what I perceived myself. Sometime I feel that I am having a hard time when communicating with larger groups, while my husband perceives me as a good communicator but what I need is the confidence of myself. He also believes that I need to work on improving my communication listening skills as he sees me answering other’s questions before hearing the whole story. On the other side, my friend also believes that I still need to do some efforts on developing my listening skills as she sees  me reacting  to other's behaviors and actions without giving myself the time to  think before making any decision .So this evaluation reveals that communication can be interpreted differently based on situations and people.
 

One insight that I gained was that it is very essential to keep working on communication skills, as well paying more attention to verbal and non-verbal cues to understand other’s feelings and their inputs. I also learned that to not judge the book by it is cover; it is important to get to know people before making any assumptions that most often are wrong and may lead to misunderstanding.        

5 comments:

  1. I agree that paying close attention to verbal and non verbal cues are important in understanding other's emotions. I think by doing so it can only make us a more effective communicator.
    Thank you for sharing,
    Maria

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  2. Bushra,
    That seems like some very good feedback in helping you become more aware of how you are communicating to others. I also tend to jump in and finish up others' thoughts and I need to learn to just listen more to the full story without interrupting. This assignment was very insightful to help us all become better communicators.

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  3. Hello Bushra,

    I am sure it is good to be able to share these activities with your husband. He probably is as honest with you than anybody else would be. I try to be a listener first, but I interrupt sometimes too. I am trying to stop doing that, because I do feel that I am rude. Thank goodness we can do better each day.

    Pam

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  4. Bushra, I understand where you are coming from when it comes to communication. I am the same way. I always seem to have a hard time communicating with others. I think that as this course goes on I will build more confidence. I enjoy reading your post and I think that you did a good job. I look forward to reading and learning more throughout the course.

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  5. Bushra,

    I agree- it does make sense that our communication skills are perceived differently that we see them. Especially when it comes to anxiety. We may feel very uncomfortable speaking in front of groups, but perhaps we are good at hiding it and, therefor, no one else sees us that way!
    Lisa

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